So how to actually get laid? Getting laid can be easy and difficult at the same time. It is easy for some and not too easy for some. Why? Well for simple reasons that some men become a master at the art of getting laid and know how to sweet talk a woman in to bed. So what does it actually take to get laid? Read on to discover some of the most shocking facts on how to get laid and achieve mind blowing results.
You don’t want it- The best way to getting laid is to pretend as if you don’t want to get laid. Yes this is the big secret right in front of your eyes. What’s a woman’s worst fear? Well a date with a guy who is a pervert. Yes that’s what women normally fear. They don’t want men who want sex rather they are in the lookout for men who want romance. Do not talk about sex at all and you would automatically see the woman you are dating spark that topic herself.
Get her comfortable- Another reason why most men never get laid is that they tend to initiate the sex conversation too early even before a woman feels completely comfortable in their company. Remember the very first thing you need to do in order to get laid to break all the mental walls that women form as a shield against perverted men. You need to get her to open up more to you and make her feel comfortable in your company. Women would only get into bed with you when they feel comfortable around you. No woman ever gets into bed with a guy whom they fear.
Let her touch you- Do not touch her unless she is ready to be touched. It’s as simple as that. You don’t want to do something she does not want you to do as that would completely spoil your chances of getting laid. If she does not make the first move than she would give you a very strong signal that she wants you to make the move.
What you don’t know yet- Ever tried to wonder what’s in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don’t want men to know but men absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover some of the most “Shocking Secrets” women don’t want men to know:
Mark Twain once said, “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you too, can become great.” True role models generate motivation. He or she proved that it could be done. And if he can do it, so can you.
Reading about how someone else achieved success creates beliefs in you that your goal is possible. It energizes you.
Successful people have role models. Here are a few examples:
· Arnold Schwarzenegger found his role model, Reg Park, in a bodybuilding magazine. Reg was the most powerful person at the time, and Arnold dreamed of having huge muscles like Reg’s. Arnold learned everything he could about Reg: his training routine, his diet, his lifestyle. The more he learned about Reg and followed his example, the more Arnold realized it was possible for him to become like Reg. (Source: Unstoppable by Cynthia Kersey)
· Pete Sampras. Born in 1971, tennis great Pete Sampras grew up idolizing his role model-the great tennis champ Rod Laver of Australia. Young Pete dreamed how one day he would also play in the U.S. Open.
As a sixteen-year-old qualifier, Pete started getting noticed on the tennis tour in 1988. He played a game called “dangerous.” It took him two years to reach the top ten, and along the way he defeated several of the great tennis legends. At nineteen, Pete was the youngest tennis player ever to win the coveted U.S. Open cup. (Source: www.rolemodel.net)
· Babe Ruth. Even the greatest slugger of all time-Babe Ruth-had a role model. He said that he would spend hours trying to copy the powerful swing of Joe Jackson, better known as Joe Shoeless Jackson.
In dating and relationships, it’s the same deal. Find a role model. Find a mentor.
Who’s the best out there? Who had a dating/sex life or relationship(s) that you’d like to have in your life? Find out who they are now, and study and model exactly what they do and you will experience the same success.
Luckily, many of the BEST MEN in the WORLD at dating and attracting and meeting women can be found by clicking the link below and will give you some powerful roles to model if you want to jump-start your journey on this path starting today.
There exists an understanding among con men, comedians, stage magicians and mind control experts that comes down to a simple axiom.
“Now one can defend against what they can cannot predict.”
This is how comedians make you laugh. They allow you to assume one thing and then shock you into laughter with another.
Con men come out of the blue, never telling their mark that they are going to con them and steal their money.
Stage magicians use misdirection that causes their audience to assume one thing while something else entirely is taking place.
Guerilla War of Minds
Mind Control, the covert attempt to influencing others thoughts, is no different. You are required to create a context where the subject will naturally assume what you want them to without ever having to say it overtly. So something that seems to come “out of the blue” can be of great benefit.
There are two benefits to this strategy. First, it will aid the subject to draw their own conclusion. Second, it will stop them from making their usual assumptions and create what is called in NLP a “pattern interrupt”.
Think about all the things that you do that are habitual, a handshake, opening a door, reacting to something pleasant or disturbing. All these are patterns engrained deeply into thought and behavior. When they are interrupted the usual thought process stops. For example you reach to open a door and it’s actually locked. Or when you extend your right hand to offer a handshake and the person reaches with his left hand to complete the handshake.
In each of these cases we are brought from our usual pattern to one that does not match our expectations.
Doing this well on a regular basis in various subtle and not- so-subtle ways will elicit several types of responses from people. The most general response is that they will separate you from the norm of people that they experience, but that happens with crazy and annoying people all the time. The key here is to do it in a way that envelops you in a sense of mystery. Having that sense of mystery combined with a supreme sense of confidence creates a unique attraction from those you wish to effect. Think about it, there is something mysterious and comforting about you. That’s a nice combination.
How do you do that?
* Work outside others experience. You can do this alluding to things that you know but that are secret. Saying with a kind smile “I don’t think I know you well enough.” will create the proper patter interrupt and make them more open to you.
* Unfold the extraordinary from the ordinary. Describe ordinary things as if there is something much deeper within them. An ash tray can be symbolism for how we burn away the things that don’t help us. A doorway represent stepping into a new awareness. A room can represent a special place with the mind where we hold our deeper thoughts.
* Act crazy. This should be done infrequently but can have a dramatic effect if the person has a strong rapport with and you set the context of your “craziness” as being very personal and serious. When the “craziness” is complete act as if nothing happened. This may risk shocking the person into fear or bind them closer to you in trust so caution must be taken.
* Keep moving. Don’t rest on your laurels. Continue to think of subtle ways to interrupt peoples consistent more thinking. Humor will be one of your best allies here because itis the most socially acceptable form of pattern interrupt.
The best way to “rise above” in this manner is to present everything that usual to their experience and nothing that is ordinarily.
One of the worst nightmares for a guy when it comes to seducing and dating women is falling in the trap of being a “nice guy”. Although you must always treat a woman with respect and dignity, it’s absolutely vital you do not become another “nice guy” around women.
So what exactly is a “nice guy”?
Well, a nice guy is a regular guy, a good guy.
To cut to the chase, nice guys don’t have a clue about what they’re doing.
- They buy roses on every other date they get with a new girl.
- They try to earn her affections by getting her presents and fancy things.
- They think they’re romantic and poetic, but all they are is pretty lame.
- They don’t have the good momentum, and get put in the “friends” box.
- They’re so desperate to please women that they put their own personal needs (time alone,
time with friends, etc) away, placing the girl on a pedestal.
- Nice guys don’t just appreciate a girl, they worship her.
But more importantly, nice guys are nice because deep down, they feel insecure.
And who wants to be dating an insecure guy?
Okay so here’s the big question: how do you get a girl to pay attention to you, when there are literally billions of other guys on the planet?
Well, start by being unusual. Unusual in an enchanting way.
You have to be desirable.
Make them wanting more.
Never give them what they want, especially not when you’re trying to seduce them.
And for God’s sakes, STOP buying gifts on every other occasion.
Here’s one of the best strategies: let her have a peak and shut the door.
You get the idea.
Picture Will Smith, in the “Hitch” movie.
In the bar scene, he approaches Eva Mendes in the coolest way possible, and blows away the guy to whom she was talking to just before.
Will takes a seat, and has a light chat with Eva, and you can see she’s interested.
They talk for a couple of minutes, and just at the peak of the conversation, Will Smith gets up and leaves.
And you can see Eva getting up and looking in the direction where he left. She was definitely interested, and the rest of the movie proves it well.
Now let’s analyze that great little scene.
You can see that Will Smith obviously knows what he’s doing.
He doesn’t ask her phone number directly, he patiently waits for her to get interested.
He acts and talks differently than most other guys, and that gets Eva intrigued.
And just at the moment when he feels she’s finally taken off her built-in radar, he leaves her.
And that’s exactly what you need to do. A lot of guys get good things going by having a good conversation, but after a while that conversation becomes lame and by the time they ask her number, she’s already gone, maybe not physically, but mentally.
Let other guys do the talking, let other guys buy expensive gifts, let other guys sink their own ships by being too nice and too cheap with women. Don’t do the same mistakes that thousands of guys do when seducing women.
It’s all about the attitude. Display the right attitude (stop being a nice guy) to build your way to more success with women, and smile when you see guys behaving like ass-kissers around women. Ass-kissers become friends. Confident guys (non-nice-guys) get laid.
Here are the top ten reasons why men fail with women – and how to make sure YOU avoid every one of these deadly common mistakes…
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted “nice” guys?
Of course you have.
What’s going on here?
It’s actually very simple…
Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn’t make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn’t make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn’t make a lot of logical sense, and it’s hard to ACCEPT… but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you’ll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You”
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like… but she’s just not interested?
Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you… YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn’t interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission”.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them… EVER.
Don’t get me wrong here.
You don’t have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things”, think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her…
MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
“I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”.
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing”How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they “feel” too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don’t realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That’s right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can’t control themselves.
Don’t do it. Lean back. Relax.
There’s a much better way…
MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they’re attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it’s not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how…
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they’ve even gotten started… because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet…
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to “settle” for a woman just because you aren’t rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it’s a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea…
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over… Women aren’t attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women
Now I’m going to blow your mind…
A woman ALWAYS knows what you’re thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That’s ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don’t know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won’t help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating…
Approaching a woman, giving her your phone number, kissing her, getting physical… everything.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman… from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don’t like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help.
Hey, I’ve been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women…
About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn’t know how to approach and meet women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to talk to, but I just couldn’t get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night… right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and give her my number and have her text me later to meet up.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling… like I don’t know how to meet women… and I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
I’ve written a book on the topic, and and have helped men all around the world.
…But the REALLY GREAT news is that I now publish a free email newsletter three times a week that teaches any guy how to increase his success with women DRAMATICALLY.
And I’d like to invite you to sign up.
It’s free, there’s no obligation, I’ll never share your email address with anyone, and you can easily remove yourself anytime with no hassles (and no, I’ll never pull any of these tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junk email when you try to remove yourself):
The first step to becoming the confident guy you’ve always wanted to be is to close your eyes and imagine every aspect of his character.
I want you to take a moment to ponder each one of these questions: How does he walk? How does he move? What does his voice sound like? Does he hold his head high? How does he dress? I want you to go through every aspect of his character. Get an extremely clear vision in your head of this fictional character. Now I want you to say to yourself, “If I can see him, I can be him”. Take your face and put it on this character. I want you to brand this image into your subconscious. In your mind, get used to walking around like this guy. Get used to talking like him.
Just as you wouldn’t expect to be the best piano player in the world without practicing, you shouldn’t expect to be a “cool”, confident guy without practicing. Become comfortable with the new guy you’ve created. I want you to really embrace the concept that you can be anyone you want. No guy was born a “ladies’ man”. Practice this visualization for at least 5 minutes a day and you’ll become more and more comfortable being this “character”.